8 Simple Rules for Negotiating Your Offer and Getting That House

Michelle Roberts • April 15, 2025

8 Simple Rules for Negotiating Your Offer and Getting That House

Buying a home isn’t just about finding the one—it’s about making the right offer to get the one. In competitive markets, getting your dream home often comes down to smart negotiation. Here are 8 simple rules to help you present a strong, strategic offer that stands out from the rest.


1. Know the Market Inside and Out

Before you make an offer, understand what homes are actually selling for—not just what they’re listed at. Your real estate agent can provide a comparative market analysis (CMA) to show recent sales in the area. This helps you determine a realistic offer price and avoid overpaying or lowballing.


2. Get Pre-Approved, Not Just Pre-Qualified

A pre-approval letter shows sellers you're serious and financially ready to buy. It gives you more credibility and negotiating power, especially if there are multiple offers on the table.


3. Start With a Strong—but Smart—Offer

In hot markets, there's little room for a “let’s see what happens” low offer. A competitive bid shows respect for the seller’s asking price while leaving room to negotiate on other terms like closing costs or move-in dates.


4. Limit Contingencies Where Possible

Contingencies protect you, but too many can make your offer less appealing. Talk to your agent about which ones are truly necessary. In competitive scenarios, waiving certain contingencies (like minor repairs or cosmetic issues) can make your offer stand out—just be sure you understand the risks.


5. Put Down a Strong Earnest Money Deposit

The earnest money deposit is a sign of good faith. A higher deposit shows you’re committed and gives the seller confidence you won’t back out unnecessarily. It can give you an edge in multiple-offer situations.


6. Find Out What the Seller Wants

Price is important, but it’s not everything. Some sellers may prioritize a fast closing, flexibility with move-out dates, or fewer repair requests. Understanding their priorities—through your agent—can help you craft a more appealing offer.


7. Be Personal—Write a Letter (If Appropriate)

Sometimes a personal touch can make a big difference. A well-written letter to the seller expressing what you love about the home and how you see your future there can help sway a decision in your favor. This isn’t always necessary, but it can add warmth to your offer in the right situation.


8. Stay Calm, Patient, and Prepared to Walk Away

Negotiating can be emotional, but it’s important to stay level-headed. Know your limits and don’t be afraid to walk away if the deal isn’t right. There will be other homes—and sometimes walking away strengthens your negotiating position if the seller reconsiders later.


Final Thoughts


The homebuying process is both exciting and complex. By following these 8 rules—and working closely with a trusted real estate agent—you’ll be better equipped to submit a winning offer and move one step closer to owning your dream home.


Ready to make your move? Let’s talk strategy.


Michelle Roberts is a trusted REALTOR® since 2007 helping families buy and sell real estate across Coastal North Carolina. As the founder of Reignited Real Estate, Michelle is known for her commitment to service, ethics, and community-driven solutions. She specializes in residential homes, land, and affordable housing—and proudly represents Cape Fear Habitat for Humanity in transactions pro bono. Michelle has served on the Cape Fear REALTORS® Board of Directors and led the “100 Homes in 100 Counties” initiative, investing nearly $2 million into affordable housing across the state. Whether you're buying your first home, exploring investment property, or navigating land development, Michelle offers unmatched local knowledge and a heart for helping others.


Serving Coastal North Carolina real estate buyers and sellers in: Wilmington, Wrightsville Beach, Carolina Beach, Leland, Southport, Calabash, Bolivia, Ocean Isle Beach, Sunset Beach, Holden Beach, Jacksonville, Hampstead, Holly Ridge. Surf City, Topsail Beach and beyond.


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